Romans 8:37 promises that those of us who hold to a hope in Christ:
"...are more than conquerors through him who loved us."
God's word never promises that we will be conquerors (i.e. dominators... defeaters... WINNERS). It says we will be more than that.
Honestly, there are days when I would rather just win. It is no fun feeling weak or defeated. The truth is, sometimes those of us who follow Christ get abused, abandoned, even dehumanized, often for doing the very thing God has called us to do. Where's the victory in that?
Christ himself might have made this same argument when he was rejected, falsely accused, beaten within an inch of his life, and then ultimately hung on a cross to die a more brutal, demeaning death than most of us could ever imagine. He could have struck down his oppressors, overpowered any dissenters and returned to Heaven, unscathed by human hands. Thank God he didn't, because in surrendering to that unjust punishment and death, he won a greater battle on our behalf. In becoming obedient even to the point of death on a cross, he also further enhanced our understanding of what true glory means (see Philippians 2:6-11).
In greater context, Romans 8:35 says this:
"Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
Notice the wording here. It is not after defeating all of these things, or even despite all of these things that we are more than conquerors. It is right in them. God's grace works in and right through the very things that cause us pain, even break us, to bring about God's glory and our good (see Romans 8:28 a few verse earlier).
And what is it that makes us more than conquerors! It's the love. The very love that brought Christ to the cross in humility will sustain, and even strengthen us during the times of hardship and need. Satan can't touch that. And as we are drawn more deeply into the arms of God, eternity itself invades our soul.
I'd rather be invaded by God's eternal love than exercise my illusion of control over the things of this world.